Encouragement ; Words of comfort

Good day. Long long day. As usual, when you aren't keen about the work you've done. It is okay, because you grow as you learn or the other way round. The past post was all about venting it out about what ive been through at work. However, today is a little different as i would like to talk about encouragement. 

Many of us or shall i say most of us do face hard times at least once or twice. With the hard times that you are going through, i guess, the last thing you want is a long winding lecture from someone else pint pointing out your weaknesses and trying so hard to just push you through that weakness right away. I can't say is wrong, but i feel that words matter most. 

Instead of pint pointing out right away a person weakness, why not give words of encouragement or help the person to change their mindset from a losing hope path to a path that they feel they can see hope. Some of us may not realize how words can indirectly affect someone and pushes someone to their limit. To me, no matter how straight forward you are or being a know-it-all person, you should take a minute to think before you say. For example, when someone says 'I feel like i am being dumped with so much workload that i am not capable of handling it all alone'. Then you reply them 'No, you just got to learn to organize it better and you have got to work smart'. Why not replying 'Take a deep breath, believe in yourself. You can do it. Maybe start off by organizing them according to level of difficulty first.' 

To be honest, comfort words may take up a few extra seconds but you never know how much comforting words can mean to someone. Such encouraging words motivates people and help them to see things in a different perspective rather than just pushing and planting words into their mind and ask them to do it. 

I am not good in words, and i am feeling pretty sleepy. I don't know how well i've written this but the message i want to send out to everyone is the words of encouragement or comfort that you are conveying to the others are important. It may not feel anything to you but not everyone are able to accept harsh words just like you do. If you care, you know a better way of comforting someone. 

Just sharing.

Till then,

Jan

Vent ;

Monday ; 8.37pm 18th January 2016

It's been close to 3 months now that i started to do what i chose as my so called 'temporary' job. If i did ever say, it should be easy. I truly take it back and say it now. It is definitely challenging.

Well, indeed work is never easy but i always tell myself my brain work faster than me reading a book. This is work life is definitely exhausting, stressful, crazy, or shall i say hell. Many times i had the thought of quitting but i now tell myself, if i can survive this i can definitely survive becoming an air stewardess because it is really hectic. I have never felt a minute of peace and being away from the sound of the world can be so wonderful. I continuously had the thoughts of just turning off my phone and just go getaway. I never felt so exhausted before that my body sometimes just decided to shut off itself while doing work. Typing this while my eyes are battling to open.

Truth to be told, i want to apply for a new job. Truth to be told, i just want to quit. I stopped and ponder, i tell myself i should hang on because it is this job definitely teaches me a lot of patience and understanding. It prepares me before i throw myself into the world of customer service and public relation. As much as i complain about work, i still prefer working than studying. Although i miss skipping class without needing to inform anything to anyone.

Ive never appreciate an understanding that much in my life. I then realize how cruel outside world can really be. Some people, they just tell you nice words in front of you and then bitch behind your back. Some people, they think money can buy everything, including people's rest time and to be treated by queen. Some people, they think that a person literally work for them alone. Some people, they just scream at you before listening to an explanation. Some they are just so rude and they demand things from you right there and then. Some people, they can google their whole life, but they just love giving you extra work by making you do it.

It made me wonder, are all these people so spoon fed or shall i say money fed that they just don't have sense of understanding? At least sense of humanity. I then realize how just smiling and taking a few minutes to understand someone can mean so much to someone especially when they deal a lot with the society. Do the society even realize that, people who work under services industry are not being paid to be looked down, to be put on public shame, to be treated like a slave, to serve 24/7.

Some people they think only they are busy, only they have work, only they have life, only they deserve a proper treatment and not realising that others are not robot too. Working is indeed hard, especially when you are working for people instead of being your own boss. This whole long post may sound like a complain and half of it probably is but i guess everyone deserve a space to vent or at least release their stress. Well, i always remind myself that what doesn't kill you make you stronger. Therefore, i need to keep holding on and have faith that things will fall in its place sooner or later. Hanging on means giving yourself space to learn and stand up from where you fall.

Till i come back with a better smile.

Janice 

See you next year! :)

Hello end of 2015. Its been such a chasing-after-time year regardless in graduating or work. What is life in a year without roller coasters ride. Therefore, closing this year with a moment of appreciation because despite the challenges, i still survive. Taking a bit of time out of the super hectic work because the thoughts just decided to pile up in my brain.

In 2015, i graduated with my degree. In 2015, i went into the new phase of life which is working. In 2015, i did not manage to get myself to go for flight attendant interview but lets push that into my '2016 to be achieved list'. I am a little bit disappointed with myself but i always remind myself that look at how far ive come rather than look at the roads i regret not taking.

Continuously remind myself, 22 years old and i am working. Paying my own expenses which i should already be proud of as i know ive managed to survive degree life. One thing to be happy about and one thing to be proud of. 2016 is coming in a few days and besides trying to be prepared for what the new year has in store for me, i am closing up whatever in 2015 that shall be remained as memories.

I am not perfect, neither am i good enough in life. However, i often remind myself that it is the mistakes in life that helps me to grow and be a better person. I very much know that i need to learn to complain less, improve my english, learn to understand people from where they stand, learn to forgive, learn that it is okay not to be okay, learn not to judge so quickly, learn to count my blessings instead of heartbreaks and maybe many more in 2016.

Here is something for those who read my blog and know me or who i might have hurt without realizing, and of course to those i treasure and love,

Dear friends and family,
First and foremost, many sorrys to those ive hurt directly or indirectly. Not to forget those ive disappoint and never realize it. Of course, many thanks to those who have continuously being there. If im able, i will definitely send in my apologies and gratitude personally. Im learning to grow and forgive me if i havent been making decisions maturely accompanied by my actions. I am learning to be better and i promise that in 2016, i will learn to make better decisions and be more sensitive with my surrounding. Lastly, i hope that the challenges in year 2016 will be easy to handle! See you next year!

Sign off,
Jan

Better together - Us the duo

There is no combination of words I could put on the back of a postcard No song that I could sing But I can try for your heart Our dreams They are made out of real things Like a, shoebox of photographs With sepia-toned loving Love is the answer At least for most of the questions in my heart Like why are we here? And where do we go? And how come it's so hard? It's not always easy and Sometimes life can be deceiving I'll tell you one thing It's always better when we're together Mmm It's always better when we're together Yeah We'll look at the stars when we're together Well It's always better when we're together Yeah It's always better when we're together And all of these moments Just might find their way into my dreams tonight But I know that they'll be gone When the morning light sings And brings new things For tomorrow night you see That they'll be gone too Too many things I have to do But if all of these dreams might find their way Into my day to day scene I'd be under the impression I was somewhere in between With only two Just me and you Not so many things we got to do Or places we got to be We'll sit beneath the mango tree now Yeah, it's always better when we're together Mmm, we're somewhere in between together Well, it's always better when we're together Yeah, it's always better when we're together Mmm, mmm, mmm I believe in memories They look so, so pretty when I sleep Hey now, and when I wake up You look so pretty sleeping next to me But there is not enough time And there is no, no song I could sing And there is no combination of words I could say But I will still tell you one thing We're better together.

Graduation!

Its a week of adapting to new phase of life and im barely close to feeling comfortable. However, sometimes in life you just have to be brave which i realize i aint that very brave yet. Maybe cause the safetiness feeling in this country has decreased? Truth to be told, a small town girl living in a big city isnt what i wanted but it has the job i would love to do. Sometimes, you just got to give and take. Partially glad, i made it through the first week but the struggle is real. It sounds so dramatic but heck #isurvived Dont judge. Yay i passed my final paper in MMU but as usual, with the slow process, i am not graduated yet because the services is pretty lousy to me? Am i mean enough to be typing this out on a public blog? I cant be helping much with what i am getting from them. I just want my graduation status to be finally recognized that i am done with my degree. Contemplating for second degree but i prefer master. We'll see. This new phase of life, is nothing but nice. I meant the work life. People tend to say, they miss studying life but not for me. I still enjoy working. The only part i miss in university is getting your friend to sign for you when you skip class. However, what is there to complain for me when i enjoy what i am doing. Love what you do and it is never a day of work but passion. Ive learn a lot, yes i know sounds too much for just a week. Besides learning to be brave(not that i am yet), i learn that time and finance management is important. Of course, being able to know what is right and wrong. Growing up isnt easy, instead it gets tougher phase by phase but what is life without challenges. I feel disappointed about myself because i know at this age i should alreadt be doing much more and know much more. I am in the middle of no where. All i know is i am never giving up because i believe i want to go far and i will work hard for it. For now, its time to close the university chapter of my life. Let the new challenges come in, and i will be planning from time to time. Till i meet you again university life. Xx Janice

Farewell vs jobs

Totally screw up blog tember challenge this year cause i pretty much spent most of my days out and my nights resting away. Sick due to the terrible haze and its been a week, im down with horrible cough and flu. Super uncomfortable but what to do. I am on many types of medication, nothing heals my itchy throat. Anyway, walk back a few days earlier, CFers celebrated Betty, Julian and my farewell. Wasnt looking forward for that cause yeah certain reasons. However, i had loads of fun for BSAD. 

From a sem, its finally down to a few weeks till im leaving this place. Air Asia has openings but my confidence not there yet. Still comtemplating bout the interview. Anyway, mom still ask me to apply for job in Singapore. So im pretty much scrolling jobstreet these days. 

This was how i spent most of my past days. Bailing on my blog tember challenge halfway. Oh dannnng. 

Till then,

Jan

Sept 17 #blogtemberchallenge

Hi! I missed out 3 consecutive days pf blog tember challenge but i will not stop taking up the challenge. Super busy past few days with my interview, going up KL to meet my parents, enjoying myself, helping my friend with her assignments. Bla bla bla. Anyway, its 8.30am now in Malaysia and im pretty sure the other sides of the world are sleeping now. Woke up super early for marketing with housemates and before i sleep back, let me do today's update. 

(Sorry for the long whine)

Well the me online and real life are pretty much the same. The only difference will be i am more expressive online than in real life. I dont express a lot about my life in real life to people because? Judgmental people. I dont really mind because most people they laugh, and they think some words are just funny buy no, it does hurt. Thats why my parents taught me, think before you speak because what you think may not be what people really feel. Which is so true. However, i dont really tell people it hurts until it reacher my limit. Cause i dont like to show people the bitch side of me. I hate the bitch side of me. 

In online, specifically my blog, i am more expressive because i can be who i am. I can choose to not read whatever comments given by others. That again, explains why my blog is written Free To Be Me. Cause its my space, its my territory, i am allowed to voice out my opinion as long as it does not hurt anyone else. 

And in real life, actually more like the me ME. I tend to be afraid to say no to people cause i dont want to hurt them. Asking for my help to finish up your fyp? Bring it on, just as long as im being appreciated. Most people always feel i am being used, well maybe but to me, as long as the other person happy, i am happy. Also explains why i love customer service or public relation line. This is pretty much my life about me in two places. You? 

Dozing off,

Jan

Sept 11 #blogtemberchallenge

Picture source : Google

If i am just staying home on a Friday night, all i want to do is call for delivery, stay in front of the tv and just lay on the comfortable sofa for a movie. Then go in to bed early. HAHAHA. Super boring but it's a simple life i want to do after a hectic week. Let's see what happens when work starts. 

Short and simple,

Jan

Sept 10 #blogtemberchallenge

Missed yesterday's post. Too bad so sad. Super busy yesterday and only came home past midnight. Its okay, challenge still goes on. Today's post, BUCKET LIST! 😁 

My bucket list by 2015:

1. To graduate this October

2. To learn how to play guitar and own one

3. To be able to get in to flight attendant

4. To be able to travel out of Malaysia

5. To be able to get a good job after graduation

6. To be able to start fresh with my life after graduate

7. To be proud of where i am heading before the year ends

8. To be able to get myself a new phone

9. To be able to get a camera for myself

10. To be able to complete at least 5 of all these before this year ends

Seem easy but with my current condition, barely able to achieve at least 3. So i got to work hard and push myself harder! Hopefully things will get better for me. 

Toodles, 

Jan

Sept 8 #blogtemberchallenge

Hi! So Malaysia doesnt have four seasons but only three. I consider it three as it will be Wet, Hot and monsoon(dry). In Malaysia i prefer the weather to be just fine. Where the post hot and pre wet. It will be just lovely to walk around without feeling too hot or too wet. It will definitely booze up my mood to do anything cause i really enjoy walking in that weather. 

Last year i went for my Europe trip (picture above in Germany), and the weather was just perfect everywhere i went. Sometimes it may be too cold but i never complain coz it felt just great. That time i went it was pre winter post autumn. And the tree leaves are just falling to perfectly on the ground. Makes it feel like walking with the snow falling but this will be leaves. It's so pretty. I fell in love with that weather and i definitely hope i can move to Europe in future cause i love it there. Also love and miss every part of my trip. 

Ops, i think i swerved away from the main topic but yeah, both of these seasons make me feel happy because i dont enjoy hot and dry season a lot since when its hot in Malaysia, i can literally weigh my sweat. Super uncomfortable. However i still appreciate this as some people would want this kind of weather. :)

Ps: drafted but forgot to post again. Sorry

Till then, Jan